I once wrote the following post:
I have conflicted feelings about this post. It’s not that I disagree with the premise. I do think that if someone considers a moirail to be the person who completes them, then the idea of an auspisticism being a missing link isn’t that far off. I also like the imagery of a chain link connection. However, the premise of needing someone else to complete your soul or your spiritual bond to another being is what’s tripping me up.
It is said that trolls generally believe they have a destined partner for each quadrant, or two in the case of auspisticism (Homestuck, page 2405). Now, I’m not sure about you, but that sounds a lot like propaganda supporting a conditionally monogamous system. Sorry to take the fun out of soulmates, but believing there’s only one pairing that can make you feel whole for a certain kind of relationship is monogamy, babes.
I don’t regret making this post, because I do believe it helped some people better understand auspisticism, but I don’t think I would have written it the same way if I were sent back in time. I want people to know you don’t need one moirail, one matesprit, one partner to make them feel whole, nor do they need someone to make their connection to someone else feel whole.
Rather, an auspisticism, like any polyamorous relationship, is greater than the sum of its parts. It’s not just one relationship, but the sum of that and the three relationships between each set of individuals. Much like how one mediated party in an auspisticism will have a different relationship with their auspistice and their other, non-mediating ashmate, people in a human polyamorous relationship will have unique dynamics with each other.
As a polyamorous person myself, I think that this is something that more people should come to understand. No two relationships will ever be the same, even if the individuals are also dating the same person. And that’s a good thing. It means every relationship is unique and special. I for one enjoy feeling special, and I imagine most people do. So maybe adjust your perception that polyamorous relationships are only equivalent to one relationship, okay?
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